So for those of you that don't know me, I'm Amanda Bell, Salon Owner and single mum of 3 very beautiful girls. My girls are my life! they are kind, funny and just amazing souls. The older 2 work full time here at Dry and the youngest works on the weekends and holidays.
On the outside looking in it would seem as though I have a very perfect life, I have it all together, all my ducks in a row, after all I have a fantastic busy beautiful salon and my own home, I am it would seem successful.
The truth is ....I don't have it all together
I often cry myself to sleep with the worry and stress of how I will get through another day
I have to pay the bills, the tax. the vat, the staffs wages before I get paid! I don't have another wage coming in and I don't have a partner that can hug me and reassure me that everything is going to be ok
I go to bed at night with my insecurities, my doubts and my feelings of being a failure.
Why am I exposing myself like this?
I feel like we live in a warped, fake, social media world where everyone pretends that their life is perfect!
It's just not true!
Social media is filled with filtered pictures and fake happiness, it's so easy to look at the post and feel inadequate, after all I'm not that thin, not that curvy, I don't have that perfect relationship, my hair never looks like that etc etc ...
But the truth is, most of these images are just not the real truth!
I use the F Word a lot! in every other sentence I say I'm FINE!
How are you? I'm FINE!
How's business? FINE!
The truth is I'm not FINE! and its okay not to be okay
I don't know what's around the corner for me, whether my business will make it into the next stage and become profitable? I don't know if I will ever find someone that will love and cherish me and love me despite my flaws?
But what I do know is that no one's life is perfect!
and whilst I go through hard times I am not alone in my storm
I am fortunate to have a faith that carries me through, knowing that no matter what life throws at me I don't have to suffer alone.
I have incredible family, friends, clients and a church family that I can turn to and lean on
Don't let social media make you feel inadequate, life is hard! and its okay to be honest and talk about it
In the salon women I admire and look up to often open up whilst in the safety of the salon chair, talking about their own insecurities and worries, my clients are so varied from corporate business owners, international athletes, professional musicians, single parents, motivational speakers, voluntary workers, the list goes on....... but let me tell you, they all suffer with the same type of problems and insecurities
Please don't suffer alone, sometimes just talking things through can be a massive weight off your shoulders
Depression and mental health is a very real problem that most of us will suffer at some point
Sometimes just talking things through and realising you are not alone is enough to release the pressure
If you have no one to talk to or don't know where to get help, then have a look at the link below
My friend Lily-Jo has set up an online mental health resource page, to help you help yourself